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Tanna K. Strom MS, LMFT, LPC, RPT-S, CCPS
Licensed Marital & Family Therapist
Licensed Professional Counselor & Supervisor
Registered Play Therapist & Supervisor
Certified Child & Parenting Specialist 


creating connection, fun, & love in your relationships
FOCUS ON HOLIDAYS THAT MATTER & ACTIVITIES OF LOVE AND CONNECTION
If you are looking for ways to strengthen your relationships or fun things to do as a couple or as a family, I invite you to check out my blog. With holidays in our lives until the end of the year, my FOCUS will be on ideas of how to create holidays that matter and provide some activities that are connecting and meaningful in the home and in the community. I continue to do weekly postings. If you would like regular emails sent directly to you of my blog postings, go into the Response Section to sign up to be a regular follower. 
Note: You can also access my blog through my website  www.stromtherapy.comJust click on the Relationship Blog tab.
Current Classes & Workshops 
SUPPORT FOR MOMS WITH EMPTYING AND EMPTY NESTS
Support for Moms Working OUTSIDE of the home
October 18th, Friday
from 1:00 -2:30 pm
Tanna Strom’s Office,
5228 E. 69th Pl
Reservation & Pre-Payment by October 11th.
$50 per person.
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Support for Moms At Home (AKA Moms Working IN the Home)
November 22nd, Friday
from 1:00 – 2:30 pm
Tanna Strom’s Office,
5228 E. 69th Pl
Reservation & Pre-Payment by November 15th.
$50 per person.
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See my website www.stromtherapy.com under the Classes & Workshops section for more detailed information or call Tanna at 918-749-1550.
Positive Thinking 
POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS FOR THE HOLIDAYS 
Here are some positive affirmations to tell yourself as you go through the holidays... 
“I decide what matters most to me and include those things in my holidays.”
“I am calm and choose to not over load myself.”
“I am enjoying the special holiday activities that I have chosen to do.”
“I stop when it feels like too much and I regroup to what is better for me.”
“I am thankful for what others have done for me.”
A Professional Quarterly Newsletter
for
those interested in 
Individual Well Being & Healthy Relationships
Creating Holidays That Matter  
In this issue ...
  1. Individual Growth & Wellness - LIVING WITH "INTENT" DURING THE HOLIDAYS
  2. My Blog: creatingbranches.com ~ creating connection, fun, & love in your relationships - FOCUS ON HOLIDAYS THAT MATTER & ACTIVITIES OF LOVE AND CONNECTION
  3. Couple Connection & Intimacy - HOLIDAY ONE ON ONE TIME
  4. Current Classes & Workshops - SUPPORT FOR MOMS WORKING OUTSIDE THE HOME & SUPPORT FOR MOMS AT HOME (AKA - MOMS WORKING IN THE HOME)
  5. Family: Creating a Healthy Home Base - MODELING WHAT MATTERS DURING THE HOLIDAYS
  6. Thoughtful Parenting - HOW MUCH HOLIDAYS TO DO??? 
  7. Positive Thinking - POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS FOR THE HOLIDAYS 
Individual Growth & Well Being
 LIVING WITH "INTENT" DURING THE HOLIDAYS
Should “our story line” for the upcoming holidays be “Caution: Holidays Ahead”?  OR “Purpose Filled, Mindful Holidays Ahead”? The first indicates we have a potential problem and perhaps something not to look forward to. This is a possibility, but the second is so much more hopeful and potentially fulfilling. When we live with INTENT, we create the story that is most healthy and joyful.
So what do I mean live with INTENT? This is simply put - you deciding what you want and you creating that vision. But first of all you will have to decide, what matters most to you and how do you want your holidays to look. And then going for it! Sounds simple. It is, except you will have to say no to some things and yes to others; plus, creating what YOU specifically want.
Best wishes from me to you for the wonderful holidays ahead and living them with INTENT and PURPOSE!
Couple Communication & Intimacy
 HOLIDAY ONE ON ONE TIME
Yes, holiday times are family times. BUT, this does not mean you cannot have one on one time to keep your couple connection strong and vibrant. Going out with a group of people or attending a company party does not count. These are of course fun things to do or most of the time fun things to do, but having true “couple time” is important. So . . . the KEY is to plan for it, putting it in your calendar AND following through with your plans. This is not intended to overwhelm you with another thing to do, it is intended to hopefully balance this time with family time. It may mean one less family event or one less party or group function. As a couple you will have to decide how to divide your total time and what to say NO to and what to say YES to. Just remember you are the “core” and for everything else to go smoothly you must take care of your core relationship. 

Thoughtful Parenting
HOW MUCH HOLIDAYING TO DO???
It may be helpful to look at this issue in a more comprehensive way. This is everything, from when we put our decorations up and how many to the variety of stimulation and activities we are involved in from school to church to community to personal, etc.  When we look at it all we can decide what makes the most sense to us and holds the most meaning to us. Of course, there may be some events that we will have no control over, but then there will be ones that we do have some control over. For example for many children (and adults) the constant bombardment of advertisements, loud store music, hoho’s at every corner can feel like too much. Due to the outside world’s heavy dose of the holidays, having an elaborately decorated house from October 1 to January 1st or later may be too much stimulation. If this is the case in your family, then tightening up how long you have decorations out, can cut down on some of the over stimulation. Maybe putting them out later and taking them up sooner could help. As to stimulation, food is another area to take a look at and decide how many sugary treats work for your family. Some is fun and a real treat, too much can mean for many everyone hanging off the walls. My goal is not to be humbug, but to encourage you to consider consciously and thoughtfully what is best for your family. Special events, foods and decorations are all important. It is how much of them and how they are spaced, etc. that can make a difference for our families. Good luck in balancing all of this. It can be hard. But being a thoughtful parent and choosing what makes sense for your own individual family can feel very good indeed. Here is to a thoughtful, purpose driven holiday. 
Family: Creating a Healthy Home Base
MODELING WHAT MATTERS DURING THE HOLIDAYS
So what does this mean? It means deciding as the leaders of your family what values and principals you want to teach your children. This may look a bit differently for each family. Holidays are an excellent time to model what matters. For example: if Thanksgiving to you is a time to be thankful for all you have, then you can plan ways to incorporate this into your holiday. Some families with this value might choose to each say something they are thankful for as they sit at their Thanksgiving table. Maybe to you, Christmas is a time of giving to those in need. If this would be the case, then having your children assist with a project that reflects this would make sense. It is so easy to get caught up in the holiday and miss what we really feel the holiday is about. But with a little thought and planning it can be a powerful time of teaching and modeling for our children. Plus connecting with them in the process!

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